HIV as dangerous as a loaded gun??

German pop singer Nadja Benaissa confessed to having sex without warning her lovers that she had been infected with HIV.
She is on trial for grievous bodily harm as one of her partners was allegedly infected by her. This case throws up so many questions and grey areas I'm not going to cover every area
My first reaction was why did she not just tell these men before hand? Why didn't these men or she insist on protection? Either one would have prevented this from occurring in the first place?! Maybe she felt the need for intimacy was far more important and thought of rejection too great to bare?
Safe sex may well have prevented this from occurring in the first place, what price a condom? The men themselves should take some responsibility as well for their own health on a completely selfish level, at least that way their partner will be protected as well.

One thing this case has exposed is the stigma of HIV is still out there with the same level of negativity and ignorance as when the disease was first highlighted.  The big safe sex advertising campaigns in the 90's rammed home the message through scare tactics that AIDS KILLS (deep booming voice). But at least the public was aware of what the disease was, now I get the impression that with the improved quality of treatment (anitretroviruls) some people feel that they have nothing to worry about, if Miss Bennaisa loses her case, in Germany at least they will have to think twice.